Sigma Male Traits

Please feel free to add any more "Sigma traits" you think need to be added to this list as you think of them in the "Comments Area" below.
  
  1. Have "private boundaries", usually these are mental barriers of attention. Any unwanted disturbance to a silent sigma's private boundaries can cause him to "snap back" suddenly without warning to breaches on his privacy and exude his dominance if pushed in a corner.
  2. Have a way of being "sneaky" and can drift in and out of social situations like a shadow -- they reappear unexpectedly behind your back... a tendency to "catch people off guard". Sigmas' natural tendency to drift through groups and social settings like "shadows" when in groups have a instinctual feeling of "otherness" in their lonesome, "outsider" status.
  3. Girls would fancy them a "second best" if unable to nab the popular, powerful alpha. Sigma knows this and resents this fact not out of pouty "she-hurt-my-feelings" kind of thing, but in the sense sigma feels devalued and disrespected. He could be just as good or better than alpha had he had a healthy "nurturing", socially-conducive environment. It's mostly social background, wealth and social connections that is his disadvantage. Sigma may game girl and promptly leave as needed. He doesn't willingly play "second banana".
  4. Can be mistaken as betas, or even omegas if sigma's indulge in their eccentric behaviors without caring what others think, but if they want or must they exert their alpha and people apologetically back off... surprised.
  5. Because Sigmas generally are more "socially unconventional" and don't blend (or may not even want to) into the crowd (unless they want to remain undetected) they face more public scrutiny, social ostracization and persecution. They are in a sense a "unaccepted alpha". People realize their dominance but begrudgingly don't want to leave an leg up for them to progress into a leadership status. They resent their dominance.
  6. People are reluctant to accept them as leaders of the group (unless they "advocate" themselves) seeing they have more history within the group and don't want to automatically give sigma the "top" social spot in spite. They know that though he is a lone wolf, he is an alpha "outside" of the social group but they can't bring it to accept him as such since he doesn't have a history of a relationship between them. Sigma has to kind of force "wiggle" himself into a group to be accepted than an extraverted alpha, who people naturally accept as the leader after warming up. If sigma is successful establishing himself as leader in the new group, others are usually resentful but accept the case b/c of his alpha dominance and leadership skills; especially if there's no real leadership around.
  7. Can get along well with alphas, but alphas may deem them as "challenges" who can potentially "replace" them or challenge their social status within their own group - cause "friction" on the leadership ranks. So alphas have a "love/hate" relationship with Sigmas. Alphas may think of them as "interesting fellows" but deep down don't have the same measure of respect for them as they do another alpha, b/c of their social status, power and connections. Alphas may acknowledge Sigmas as "challengers" but still not worthy enough for not having a social establishment, wealth and power to equal his own. Alpha may view Sigma's social dominance as a "shadow" not backed up by any success in society.
  8. Sigma personality has a tendency to polarize people's opinions on them: love or hate stretching in opposite directions. Of course, sigma games the social scene and adapts his behavior to reap the best outcome for himself. So he might not say and do everything he wants because he's afraid. No, he does it because it's the smart thing to do and he gets the best benefits for doing so. Sigma is very much benefit-cost analysis in everything he does. Time efficient.
  9. Sigmas don't like or care for inconvenient social norms, laws and rules (many of which don't make sense and are unnecessarily complicated and troublesome) if they don't have any practical point, value or benefit and if he's able to, doesn't follow them and does his own thing (within reason, not a wild anarchist. At least not most of the time.)
  10. Sigma doesn't like to get caught up in a social group or situation where he has to "play beta"; it tugs on his pride and heart when he doesn't rightfully get to express his dominance as the "alpha" inside he is but because of external factors such as low social status, financially poor, social conflicts, broken family background and broken family, he can't quite "rise up" to exert his alpha dominance without extreme effort. Everything socially-embedded seems like a gated fence he can't get in.
  11. Avoids jobs, careers or businesses that have no real benefit or purpose except becoming cash-cows and manipulating the peasantry. He uses his talents, skills and abilities in hobbies and causes that usually go unseen by the public eye but have a greater impact on the overall society. He doesn't get caught up in power plays or skirmishes in the rat race. Sees the game for what it is and find ways to game the system for big payoffs w/o all the "drama".
  12. Sigmas are the only men on the human male socio-sexual hierarchy who don't kowtow to the whims of the alpha. Sigmas are good at socially ridiculing or castrating alphas if pushed to that extent. In fact this is an advantage the sigma has against the alpha than makes him seem more powerful b/c he doesn't think himself "below" the alpha (b/c he's not) just b/c he doesn't have the social rank and power to side with. However, this also can become a disadvantage if sigma "shows up" a respected alpha (even if alpha's in the wrong) and others who know alpha side with him and in the process isolating sigma 1-100. Even if sigma manages to best alpha, alpha has the natural loyalty of his clan b/c of his lifelong relationship bond with others to back him up. Sigma may beat alpha alone, but against alpha and crew by himself, sigma fades back not out of fear but because odds are against him and the tribe has spoken and decided against him in one way or another. They just trust alpha more because he is "formed" around the group. Not a free-floater that the people eventually typecast the sigma as. Sigma knows he is on the same level of alpha or above as a greater alpha(he just didn't get to form his own stable group), but is "outside" the social hierarchy so he isn't deemed as such or accepted by the group who fit conventional social values and behavior contrary to a sigma's usually unconventional social values and behavior, and so can't climb the social ladder organically.
  13. Can walk into a crowded room or place like no one is there if he consciously focuses on one thing in his mind and uses his peripheral vision to "scan" the area while being consciously aware he's surrounded by people. He just ignores them and focuses his ATTENTION on his intended goal.
  14. Generally exceptional in one or more regards be it a certain talent, skill or athletic ability (ISTP personality type) in sports or writing skills in academics. Whatever a sigma likes doing he is usually very good at it. In personal growth goals for improvement such as body-building, writing prose, musical creations, architecture, inventions, or whatever interest he dedicates himself to.
  15. Sigma's introversion fuels his alpha dominance for MASTERY in his particular chosen field.  He's good at what he does in DEPTH of knowledge and experience in 2-3 subjects, but may lack BREADTH of knowledge and experience in uninteresting, trivial subjects (like most pop culture garbage/filth not worth his time) and be blissfully ignorant of them. Not because he can't do them or is dumb -- he never knew or cared enough to learn all about it if it doesn't suit his purpose or interest him.
  16. Sigmas are generally "experts" on one topic/subject or another while Alphas are generally "well-rounded" and have a "surface" knowledge of many different subjects and topics.
  17. Sigmas are universally about DEPTH of Knowledge and Power in their pursuits and endeavors while Alphas are universally about BREADTH of Knowledge and Power in their pursuits and endeavors. 
  18. Often have a slow, steady, intense "soul-gazing" eye contact and stare which often has a tendency to be "unnerving" to most people but can also be flirty, seductive and sexually arousing when gaming women.
  19. Sigmas have a "default mode" of "beta autopilot" if not consciously bothering to express their "alphaness" in social situations or interactions with people if they don't really want to  bother engaging "socially."
  20. Sigmas have a natural social tendency to cause disharmony in a social group and can thrive under social conflict pressure. May be "conflict-prone" or "conflict-causing" at will in certain social situations with different people.
  21. Sigmas (often) have peculiar or "quirky" habits and behaviors that people might think of as "mental problems" like collecting items off the ground, staring blankly at objects/people or walking in-and-out of social groups after speaking. However, this kind of peculiar or strange "out-of-the-norm" Sigma social behavior is NOT to be confused with an actual psychological, neurosis mental disorder. These (natural) quirky Sigma behaviours are done *consciously* in a habitual manner of living. For example, the "tobacco-spitting" signature character gimmick of Clint Eastwood's Outlaw "Josey Wales" (a fictional archetypal Sigma character) serves as a distinct marker of unconventional Sigma-esque social behavior.
  22. Instinctive personal and/or physiological temperament desire for social solitude.
  23. May "eject" or quickly, stealthily leave a social group or situation when perceived to be a threat, danger or disadvantage.
  24. May have a "realistic" yet (ever-increasing) cynical, melancholic and/or pessimistic serious attitude about life, people and human nature based upon personal life experience.
  25. An "instinctive" lone wolf wandering instinct understanding of "social perception" of "social reading new social groups of people he comes across; able to recognize the "micro-aggressive" "tribal social reaction signals" of disdain, rejection of ostracization from social groups of people who may subconsciously instinctively recognize you as a "lone (alpha) wolf"; in particular from "beta males" who may ostracize and isolate you from their presence of "The Tribe" as the wandering Sigma man walks on the "outside perimeters" of the social group or "crowd" of people who may or may not notice you; and reject your presence in an act of "micro-aggressive" tribal "social banishment" or "unwelcome" from "The Tribe". For example, an "intellectual-like", casually-dressed black Sigma man raised around white people his whole life who then "wanders into" a poor black "ghetto neighborhood" as a "stranger" nobody knows and instinctively the people who may see him walking from a distance instinctively sense, know and can "feel" that the "intellectual-like" black Sigma man is "not one of them", having not been "born 'n raised" in the personal life experiences of the "poor Black Community". The "intellectual-like" black Sigma man *has* the skin colour of his people; but he is NOT "one of them. He is an "alien" among even his own people. Amen. 

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    1. Thanks Robin, God-willing more to come... Amen.

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  2. I think im a sigma but its never a bless .. i have to walk the narrow route as the humble duck sometimes to aviod conflicts ... alpha's have deep hate for sigmas because were actually more powerful because we dont give a f#@$ were autonomous

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    1. Indeed. I've faced similar life experiences. It's a "tricky tight-rope" to walk but such is the life of a Sigma...

      May God's Blessings abide in your life "Anonymous". Hope all goes well with you.

      ~ Sincerely,

      Bro. Ever Light

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  3. Finally,someone who understands me.

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    1. Glad I can be of help. Take care out there "Anonymous" (May 3, 2016) @ 1:54.m. Amen.

      ~ Sincerely,

      Bro. Ever Light

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  4. Honestly, I feel like this sums me up exactly. Very interesting read. It must be hard to gather information, but i appreciate what you have.

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    1. Hello there Anonymous (July 19, 2016 at 11:28a.m.): glad it helps lol. God-willing I have much more to add up over time. A whole lot more useful and effective content to add. It's stockpiled, I just got to make the time out of my personal life to finally post more and update this site.

      Thanks for visiting.

      ~ Sincerely,

      Bro. Ever Light

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    2. We can't make time..but we can take it

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  5. Why don't you take the time to edit this?

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    1. Don't worry Unknown, God-willing, as long as I'm alive and living I'll eventually get back to it sometime... Amen.

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  6. Thank you for writing that it said a lot to me. Peace be with you dude

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    1. Your welcome. Glad it helps well. Lord-willing more to come... Amen.

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  7. Very valuable insight.
    I definitely consider myself a Sigma male.
    Please allow me to add another trait "The Sigma Male has the ability to create an earthquake effect through completely unexpected achievements that are very hard if not impossible to replicate by Betas and most Alphas. This trait alone earns him great admiration but also a lot of hate. Examples could be becoming a great writer, originating a fantastic and profitable business idea...."

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    1. Absolutely spot-on Anonymous. Yeah, I'm hoping to develop on that key distinction of the Sigma male sometime soon in the near future, Lord-willing.

      Definitely was going with that idea when I choose real life Sigma men to make this point.

      Hope all is going well with you in life. Amen.

      ~ Sincerely,

      Bro. Ever Light

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  8. Hey. I am usually alone in our class. I dont know about this hierarchy thing. But I have this alpha mate. We are so close to each other like a bestfriend, his athletic and bunch of friends(beta mates). Im different, Im a loner but damn! I can write majestic poems, I understand life complexities, worrying human existence, etc. I'm so deep that he cant even understand me and my mysterious attitudes. He's famous, he is a swimming captain, confident and attractive. But look at me! I just sit with silence displaying dominance, of course I know how to sit like an alpha and they got intimidated, girls are attracted. I'm awesome! I still love to hang out with him but he cant control me, I'm not the one he messed with actually. At some point, I know he hates me, I feel it. And I'm a sigma but this alpha is still my friend. We respect each other.

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    2. By the way, Im really handsome, not boastful just confident. Thanks to the author. I found myself here.

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  10. Number 23 describe me very much. Thank you poster

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    1. Your welcome Taufan. Hope you're doing well. Glad it helps you. Amen.

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  11. This explains me to myself to an extreme. It answered lifelong burning questions about things I struggle internally with. My social situations and my own mentallity and place in society. Thank You!

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  12. The understanding of this has greatly changed my perception of myself. I felt all of it. Knew it 100% always but didn't understand it. Didn't understand it was a real thing. That there was a name for it. What happens when 2 Sigma males meet? Do we connect to an extreme or avoid each other? I would like to connect but don't know if I've ever met another Sigma. Amen. My life will be so much more powerful now

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    1. "What happens when 2 Sigma males meet? Do we connect to an extreme or avoid each other? I would like to connect but don't know if I've ever met another Sigma."

      Hmmm... I'd say as "extreme individuals" on the introversion-extraversion spectrum my experience has been that Sigmas (I've been fortunate to meet quite a few in my life) that first meet each other tend to have an "instinctive respect" for each other as "their kind"; but at the same time can also be "competitive", "standoffish", "contempt" and "cautious" of the other; as a kind of male "rivalry" or "who's more dominant" instinct.

      For this reason I really don't think "Sigmas" will get along too well with each other in groups more than three at the most. Too much ego, pride and contention involved. They'd probably hate dealing with each other too long and want to go about their own thing their own way as solo "independent men".

      One Sigma or two would have to be more "cooperative" and "humble" and go with the lead of "leading Sigma" for a meetup of Sigmas to work in real life I think.

      Besides that, Sigmas can either become geniuene lifelong friends to each other or completely cut contact and move on like they've never met each other going their own courses in life.

      And if they meet again and remember say something like, "Oh hey, what's been going on with you lately?" and may continue from there in conversation...

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