Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Sigma Social Game: KNOW People

Note: On behalf of what I've been living through lately...

If anything, Sigmas are advised to get to know the social environment and surroundings. Get to know your neighbors, get to know people and build up social capital through social connections. Do NOT just stay a hermit to yourself without knowing anyone. Everybody needs someone and you never really know when you might need help with something in life. Remember social value is measured and built on TIME YOU SPEND HANGING OUT WITH OTHERS. So hang out with people YOU find interesting. This is why Alphas have massive social value and capital: they spend a lot of time with others and get to know people on a PERSONAL LEVEL IN RELATIONSHIPS. This is how Alphas get, keep and MAINTAIN those social connections over a lifetime which help give them leverage to gain more wealth, power, influence and resources in society.

Do NOT be a stranger; get to know others on a personal level. Even if you don't hang out with people a lot of the time; people look out for those they know. If you lost something around a person you know you have a better chance of them returning it or calling you to get it than just being some random stranger passing by (most people would not bother telling you, you forgot something). Get to know others.

Time spent socializing and getting to know people is NOT a waste if you don't let it be. You get to improve your social skills, connect with another human-being and get to know or understand that person. Socializing is only a waste if you do not know how to create a decent conversation and build up social rapport and momentum for your purpose to make it interesting.
The dumbest people can end up with the best things, best jobs, best car, best house, happy family, by communicating well and being kind to the people they are working with not necessarily because they are "intelligent". They know how to talk and behave around people, are kind and "people-persons" so they get far in life because others actually want them to. Be the opposite, and people would like (or love) to see you fail in life and keep you down. People look out for people they like. This is an irrefutable human social truth in real life experience.
You could be an "Einstein"; a genius, but if you can't talk and get along with people and cooperate you won't accomplish nearly as much as you could with a "team effort". The popular saying 'it's not what you know, it's who you know' really applies in real life. Many people who get jobs, own businesses, public/private organizations and top-tier jobs get their because of their social connections with friends and their resources and their influential powerful, well-known families.

You can be the smartest guy in the room yet without decent social skills, a hard work ethic and good attitude, you won't capitalize on your "smarts" and you will be avoided, ignored and "ostracized" by the group or co-workers with hardly any social value except as a person they "work with".

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