A lot of the time Sigma wants to be left alone.
However, there comes a time Sigma needs to be social and communicate with people.
In his daily life Sigma must master the art of managing social connections.
Sigma finds he is often invited to many different social occasions like parties, meetings and whatnot.
Sigma will have to decide if he wants to go and hang out or not.
A good strategy that works is not to got to a party, potluck or "gathering" you are invited too and instead wait until you see the disillusioned, saddened, slightly upset looks on their faces of disappointment, angst with the "unattainable" desire for your company.
People will be like, in a depressed, expecting voice "Well... we're having a party at (such-and-such)... If you want to come over..." and they'll end half-way through asking you with the initial expectation that you will not join them.
BUT here's the thing.
If you come across a few of the people asking to invite you over to a social function, play it down like "no thanks" and then subtly surprise them by coming over just to lighten their moods and hang around (even if just for a little while).
Get into a subconscious habit of "timing" the social moods of the people you regularly meet and interact with in you daily life and then "show up" to social functions when you feel like everyone else least expects you to show.
That way the "surprise" of your presence lightens up the mood of the people to an "unexpected joy" and if you are cool about how you carry yourself in terms of a positive, likable personality and character you can make it work there.
Don't make any "absolute statements" as a man like "I'll be there" because then you will have "crossed your word" as a man in the eyes of the people and yourself.
Make a habit of usually saying a variation of "I might stop by for a little while" so you're not committed to the request but you say this in the friendliest, casual good-meaning tone of voice you naturally, normally use.
Note: These are often social tactics to use when people you don't really know are inviting or asking you for stuff. If you have a life filled with people whose presence you cherish you don't have this to deal with.
However, there comes a time Sigma needs to be social and communicate with people.
In his daily life Sigma must master the art of managing social connections.
Sigma finds he is often invited to many different social occasions like parties, meetings and whatnot.
Sigma will have to decide if he wants to go and hang out or not.
A good strategy that works is not to got to a party, potluck or "gathering" you are invited too and instead wait until you see the disillusioned, saddened, slightly upset looks on their faces of disappointment, angst with the "unattainable" desire for your company.
People will be like, in a depressed, expecting voice "Well... we're having a party at (such-and-such)... If you want to come over..." and they'll end half-way through asking you with the initial expectation that you will not join them.
BUT here's the thing.
If you come across a few of the people asking to invite you over to a social function, play it down like "no thanks" and then subtly surprise them by coming over just to lighten their moods and hang around (even if just for a little while).
Get into a subconscious habit of "timing" the social moods of the people you regularly meet and interact with in you daily life and then "show up" to social functions when you feel like everyone else least expects you to show.
That way the "surprise" of your presence lightens up the mood of the people to an "unexpected joy" and if you are cool about how you carry yourself in terms of a positive, likable personality and character you can make it work there.
Don't make any "absolute statements" as a man like "I'll be there" because then you will have "crossed your word" as a man in the eyes of the people and yourself.
Make a habit of usually saying a variation of "I might stop by for a little while" so you're not committed to the request but you say this in the friendliest, casual good-meaning tone of voice you naturally, normally use.
Note: These are often social tactics to use when people you don't really know are inviting or asking you for stuff. If you have a life filled with people whose presence you cherish you don't have this to deal with.
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