A mature man realizes
that a true marriage is a partnership with his dear wife. Both husband and wife
realize they compliment each other in one way or another and that their
combined expertise aids in the fulfillment of the husband's MAIN MISSION in
life and the guidance of their family following under God's Will in obedience.
The spiritual union between a man and a woman in blissful matrimony is a
partnership of advantage rather than setbacks or disadvantages.
The traditional,
biblical marriage is of benefits all-around such as the love a supporting wife,
children and family and that continues a man's genetic lineage without any
detriments of spousal abuse, conflict, divorce and neglect of marriage duties
(i.e. lack of sex to each other, not making decisions together, etc.). Of
course, "real" marriage as we have it today is nothing like this
model in the mainstream but such a true honorable marriage still exists in small
pockets around the world.
Marriage, especially in
today's world, has no other real purpose except having children. That was the
primary reason people married in the past and always is anyways; to have
children. Marrying someone just for sex or superficial reasons is pointless and
costly for both parties involved; not to mention women who want to have kids
within their biological clock and men who don't want to be financially ruined
in a divorce. So the only real encouragement for marriage is to have and raise
children in a healthy, stable social environment where they have BOTH mother
AND father. Marrying just for "love" isn't even a wise decision if it
doesn't include kids in the near future.
Do not get
married if you never plan on having kids. Don't mess up the dreams of women who
really want children but are afraid for whatever reason of saying they want
kids but you don't. At that point, even though it's sinful it's better to
"cad-out" and have sinful fornication, no-strings-attached sex with
women than having more dishonor from leading a woman on who truly wants kids
but doesn't want to acknowledge it in fear of losing you.
To avoid the
"greater pain" of life do not engage in long-term relationships with
women who hope to have kids some day. You are wasting what little valuable time
they will have in their youthful prime to "connect" with a man before
no man who has common sense, a sound mind and decent life experience knows,
that marriage to a Western woman is signing up
a "bad contract" for life and will refuse to marry. If you
want to "cad around" (and I DO NOT SUPPORT OR ENCOURAGE PREMERITAL
SEX SO IF YOU CARED TO LISTEN TO WHAT I THINK, I AM TELLING YOU NOT TO HAVE SEX
OUT OF MARRIAGE) do it with women who are into that kind of thing, instead of messing
up the few good women left in America and The West worth marrying.
Although I do not
recommend marriage in the modern Western world, I still do not condone
marriage. No matter what we try to avoid as men, if we were born in Western
society the Western women are still our women. When men marry Western women, we
should advise and hope that our brothers do well and bless them in prayer to
the Lord Jesus Christ. In this hostile, anti-male society which is like a
massive women's "fitness test", I believe this is the perfect time
for men to be men and reclaim their manhood and masculinity by facing up to the
Challenge, humbling our women, crushing their fitness tests, taking them off
their pedestals and DOMINATE, crushing the Female Imperative one level at a time.
There's been marriages
where couples were in love with each other but as they grew older the marriages
broke apart because one partner wanted kids and the other didn't. So in the
long run, marriage without kids (despite the "love" both husband and
wife have for each) is pointless.
When you are a
"real man", women will know that if they divorce you their bad
decision will be on them; so don't marry with many possessions to become
bitter, angry or feel cheated if she divorces you because the woman will know
deep down she, and only she, messed it up for you, your kids together, and
especially herself. She will have the "greater sin" for destroying
the marriage AND family. But do not hate or wish bad feelings on her
because if you have children with her she is the mother of your children and
you should mean well for her for your children's sake, TOGETHER. Remember the
"Bigger Picture", take care and love on.
At the end of this,
having and raising children is best done in the "proper model" of a
monogamous marriage for everyone involved. Kids simply need BOTH a mother and
father, no one or the other or some strange "substitute". A mother
AND a father is the healthiest foundation. Most other male/female figures
besides grandma or grandpa, aunt or uncle, is usually perverse. The only real
purpose for marriage is to HAVE CHILDREN. So only get married if you plan on
having kids. Period.
Also, do not ever get
your tubes tied (men AND women, especially women) because the expensive
procedure which costs around $600-2000 and is usually very permanent and
there's no going back. Ridiculous! You could spend that money for something
much more valuable. Why destroy/cancel the natural function of your
reproductive organs permanently when there's no honest, good reason? Is the
reason just to have unprotected (no condom) sex without "risking" a
pregnancy? That seems like a very shallow, superficial reason to go through a
vasectomy but to you it can be a perfectly valid reason. No man by any means
needs to do any of these options except stay abstinent until he feels
comfortable with the idea of having children.
We must remember before
sex just recently became a "recreational pleasure" activity for
humans; the sole purpose of sex is (and always will be) to reproduce offspring. In this life there is
no greater achievement than leaving a genetic legacy behind to mark your short,
finite existence on this earth. No individual man's accomplishments,
achievements and ambitions in life could ever measure up to the man who had
children and the legacy of accomplishments achieved by his descendants.
Children are the future for a reason, they are the continuation knowledge,
technology and human history as we know.
Take the example of a
rich businessman who never wanted or had kids to the homeless ma on the street
who had kids. Now, the homeless man may or may not of had kids in broken
families; but that's not the point here. The point is the rich,
"successful" businessman's legacy of achievements starts AND ENDS
with him; he has no bloodline, son or daughter to pass his legacy on to.
Historically-speaking rich businessman has accomplished nothing lasting.
The business he worked
for may or may not progress; he really never knows if all his hard work paid
off there or not. Then again, in the grand scheme of things he was just a
little worker bee in the Big Hive of many worker bees. Rich businessmen can
easily be replaced by another "new", up-coming capable worker and all
his hard work for the business or corporation he worked under is deemed
insignificant. A small cog n the Machine.
However, the homeless
man, no matter how much of a failure he's been in life, is the ultimate victor
in the Long-term Game. He has left something on earth far more valuable and
powerful than money and material wealth possessions. He's left his biological
children, grandchildren and future great-grandchildren.
Homeless man's life may
have amounted to nothing, but through his children and future descendants
perhaps some of them will achieve something great and worthwhile with their
lives like creating a cure for an incurable disease, ambitious entrepreneur or
inventor of a revolutionary product that changes the history of mankind.
In the grand scheme of
things, homeless man made the greater contribution in history. Homeless man may
never be remembered individually but his name, through his biological
descendants, will be known and remembered throughout the greater time of human
history.
Few famous historic
people like Roman Emperor Julius Cesar, American inventor Benjamin Franklin and
Indian Nationalist Mahatma Gandhi; throughout human history will stand the Test
of Time for their respective pivotal achievements of the greater whole of
humanity. Yet even their such accomplishments will never amount to the
generational impact on history of those with children left behind.
In the back of your
mind you want to leave something of your very own that will stand the test of
time and that is your biological legacy. Your children. No money, power or
material manifestation can ever be as firm and stable in potential
effectiveness in the long-lasting human civilization instead of your genetic
bloodline. What much else is there that is important in life than having
children? Pretty much nothing; not your job, not your "career" in a
corporate office cubicle passing papers around. NONE. OF. THAT. Only your
family is what will care for you in the long haul. Any "other" social
bond is superficial, artificial and fleeting. Think about it, just some
suggestions.
In the end there's
nothing better than having the priceless love of your children from fatherhood knowing you have something that will last on after you're gone.
You can die in
an accident or for any reason anytime.
Your time on this earth is short. Use it
to the best of your abilities gentlemen.
