Sigma: He feels "devalued" in a certain way of his internal "self-worth" when a woman turns her eyes to the allure of the Alpha (from a "compare & contrast, pro & con" subconscious hindbrain, instinctual mental analysis). The man with BOTH apex SOCIAL AND SEXUAL DOMINANCE.
The allure of the Sigma is akin to that of a "fleeting exotic vacation" or a "exciting trip" but nothing long-term or "serious" in girl-speak.
The allure of the Sigma is akin to that of a "fleeting exotic vacation" or a "exciting trip" but nothing long-term or "serious" in girl-speak.
This causes Sigma to acknowledge his "secondary status" from regards to women's sexual attraction. Sigma was coerced to be or instinctually "feel" "second best" with regards to women's prime MAJORITY preference of the Alpha male.
A woman's wandering eye to the Alpha is a slight, subtle rejection of the Sigma for the hypergamous "upgrade" of the Alpha and his higher social status and "perks".
This natural slight rejection hits at Sigma's ego deeply; not b/c he's truly "second best" but a "disadvantaged could-have-been" Alpha, which unemotionally disappoints him in terms of his "self-defined" (usually honest) internal status and identity within the prime socio-sexual hierarchy.
Sigma doesn't really hold much against the girl but rather her hypergamous, presumptuous "biased" interpretation in her mind of the Sigma's "lower value" for herself long-term-wise (in that he's an "outsider" who lacks embedded social value, status and connections in a "group" who can't provide her with the wealth, big house and excess lifestyle she thinks she deserves not just for the responsibility of rearing children, but for her own indulgent self-gratification).
Girls figure they have a better chance hooking up with the Sig (short or long-term) than they do the Alpha, so (if) when they choose to leave they don't have much to lose "socially" given sigma's "outsider status" in the socio-sexual hierarchy since he isn't tied down to social connections and pretty much has no need to care that much for it.
If girls broke up from Alpha with or without good intentions they can pay a price socially for enjoying Alpha's realm if they disrespect, embarrass or humiliate him in any fashion (esp. in public with his crew) and his World in any way.
Girls have some kind of social harassment -- be it gossip, rumors, "micro-aggression" in social circles in talking with people (well-known) Alpha knows, and social ostracization.
Plus "new girl" tries to gain Alpha's attention to be "New Girl". Old Girl passes by Sigma, helplessly smiles at him hoping to get him back; Sigma knows what's up: she's rejected; ignores her and goes about his business. He ain't settling for another man's "damaged goods".
And this is why I really love to be the friend of the top tier 1 type. After all they perceive that a lot of alphas are greaters betas and become addicted to you, but then I disapear just for fun and it will become very funny if you see her again, she will run to hug you like a little sisters, and everybody else get mad because the top tier girl is submited to you, pseudo alphas get mad, top 2 girls get mad, betas get really mad and I just laugh and smile.
ReplyDeleteIt's the act of doing the alpha appear beta.
Ha, ha! I've experienced similar reactions.
ReplyDeleteThey want what you have when they don't expect you to be able to get it... but you do and they can't stand themselves.
Sad really.
Yes.
DeleteI just follow what God tell me to do, if the person is good since the begining I will help them with the best efforts that I have, but for te ones who are corrupted I'll just give mine hand and after a good bye.
I just stand in company of the corrupted ones to show them that the light even being more hard to follow give the best rewards.
I'll email you now.